Confidence, luck, beauty etc.. is it all just an illusion?

People get discouraged by other people who seem much more confident, rich, lucky and better looking. But how do people overcome this? There are so many other people in the world who are successful, famous and happier than they are.


So many people waste their lives on things that don't matter like on the way they look or what friends to hang around with.


So what should you really focus on in life?Confidence, luck, beauty etc.. is it all just an illusion?
I asked the same question when I was eighteen. Now at fifty I am still searching for answers, only now I have eliminated many of the common suggestions like those you mention-good looks, money, etc.





What should you focus on - your question shows that you have begun this special journey to which I have not yet found an end. But what a journey.





All I can suggest to start is to focus on being a decent human being, that is don't hurt people. If you do try to put it right.


Don't be fooled into accepting the common view on anything without checking it out for yourself.


But always show tolerance for the views of others except where they try to harm you.


Get to know yourself. Sounds silly but social inhibitions will have forced you to submerge your darker side. Get to know both your good and bad points. This does not mean that you act on your darker side just that you accept that it is part of you.


If you believe in God believe in him. Don't be put off by people like me who don't. Remember respect my views but follow your own.





I wish you a good journey.


Confidence, luck, beauty etc.. is it all just an illusion?
cailinmo answer was great.


i think he makes perfect sense, but i think if you want to be happy you are caught in chasing an illusion, just like those who worry about who they are, luck, beauty, are chasing illusions too. the best way to feel happy, (not being happy because in reality nobody is happy) is being able to rightly choose most of your actions. every action provokes a reaction so before doing something you must be wise enough to figure out what the reaction will be. if you think the result of your action will please you, do it. if not, think about another action...one that will make you feel happy about the reaction.






why in every ******* answer do people start to talk about God.


For **** sake stop ******* preaching ****.





what would you say if i told you i had an invisible friend beside me called jonny? you'd same im a ******* looney.





gods the same ******* thing





Do you know what mate, live for the moment, you do what you want to do. Don't think to much about things because then it gets boring. Be considerate but listen to your desires and dont suppress them. What is the point in living if you cant do what you want!
Being the best person you can possibly be without hurting others. If you have children they become the focus as well.And don't forget God!!
hmmm.... id say theyre blessings...that some people are led astray by... not trying to preech i promis...we're ll beautiful in our own way,


and to be happy we jus gotta be grateful for wat we got...not what we havnt thers no point hey...
it is a total delusion


monkey mind always grasping for more


concentrate on the Here and Now
just being happy.
I wouldn't say we are chasing illusions. We are chasing concepts. It's all a matter of prioritising which concept is most valuable to you.





If you want to kill people, there is nothing that says you can't in the grand scheme of things. Good and Evil are man made concepts to keep societies from breaking down. If one society thinks they are better than an another, killing is justified by War so again it comes down to priorities. Some people believe killing is a priority in order to protect ones society. As much as I don't agree, this just means my priority system is different to theirs. It doesn't mean they are bad or wrong and it does not make me right or good. Only arrogant people would make such judgements and there seems to plenty of those on here.





Nobody can say what the best way to live is as none of us are divine beings. This is why I don't agree with authorititive religion or law. But if you decide that you want to belong to a certain group, you will be willing to abide by it's rules as it suits your agenda. If you want to further yourself spiritually, you may want to become religious. It's up to you. I can't tell you what is valuable to you. I'm not that self-righteous. Of course I would have opinions but who doesn't?





If you want to do what you want to do, that will require confidence as you must believe in yourself as self-doubt will quickly stop you in your tracks.





If you want to be popular, you must be able show the characteristics that the group you are trying to win over find valuable.





If you want to be financially rich, you must be lucky, talented, sexy (sad but true) or industrious.





If you want to be an assassin, you must be amoral, and an owner of 20/20 vision I'd imagine.





If you want to be a conceptual artist, you will need lots of acid and a pretentious attitude... (oohh controversial)





None of these are bad or good options. They may be valuable or invaluable depending on your own agenda.





Make a choice and if it makes you happy (assuming this is your goal in life), keep doing it. If it makes you unhappy, you've made the wrong choice and it's back to the drawing board. Don't let anyone make the choices for you as that is when you turn into a robot and there are far too many of those around.





I may of course be completely wrong here and you should just do what you're told by your parents, as apparently, ';they know what's best';. Hehe.